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7 Warning Signs Your Friend Is In An Abusive Marriage

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3 years ago

Apr 11, 2022.

Yinka Akanbi

Victims sometimes stay in an abusive marriage for a host of reasons such as being attached to their partner, for the sake of their children etc.
A recent study found that a third of all women have been victims of some form of violence at one time or the other in during their lifetime

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EKO HOT BLOG had reported how the police arrested the husband of Osinachi Nwachukwu, a popular gospel artiste and lead singer at the Dunamis International Headquarters for alleged culpable homicide.

The deceased’s brother and colleagues had reported that she had been enduring severe beatings from her husband.

A recent study found that a third of all women have been victims of some form of violence at one time or the other in during their lifetime.

Just because domestic violence is prevalent doesn’t mean that it is okay. Still, victims sometimes stay in abusive marriages for a host of reasons — they are attached to their partner, they have children, they are financially dependent, among others.

Do you have a gut feeling that a friend is in an abusive marriage? You might want to look out for the following signs.

1. Her Partner Doesn’t Like It When She Spends Time With You

Spending less time with your friend when she is married is normal.

However, there is a point where it can become excessive and signal that something isn’t quite right.

If your friend’s spouse is discouraging her from spending time with you, chances are they’re also discouraging her from spending time with everyone else too.

2. She’s Noticeably Unhappy More Often

We can all understand being invested in a relationship and letting the inevitable ups and downs affect our behavior and mood from time to time.

However, have you noticed that your friend is especially sad lately? Abusive partners have a habit of breaking down their victims emotionally by discouraging, or shaming them.

3. You’re Uncomfortable With Her Partner

If the friend you’re worried about is close to you, you’ve probably met her partner at least once.

Did you get a bad feeling when you met them? If so, you should probably trust your instincts.

While this is tricky, It’s important not to jump to conclusions, but if you noticed any hints of abusive behavior with your own eyes, you should probably keep a close eye on your friend too.

4. She Has Frequent Cuts Or Bruises

This seems fairly obvious, but if your friend seems battered or bruised, and doesn’t do activities or work in a profession which may cause little accidents, it’s a very bad sign.

Since physical violence is serious, this could warrant a conversation with her about what’s really going on, or for you to get her the help she needs.

5. She Puts His Needs Before Hers

If someone becomes abusive in their marriage and victimizes their partner, they expect the victim to cooperate.

Abuse in a relationship can often happen slowly, which makes it hard for the victim to identify that their behavior is wrong, or unusual.

6. Her Partner Has A History Of Abuse

Chances are, you don’t have access to your friend’s spouse’s full history. However, there are certain signs that you can talk to her about which may be cause for concern. The abuser may have hinted at how their past partners were “crazy” or “problematic.”

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7. She’s Unwilling To Admit There’s A Problem

No one likes to admit that they are being treated poorly, especially by someone they might love.

People feel a lot of shame surrounding an abusive marriage, which will make them less likely to openly admit that they are a victim of one. For which reason, your friend might not be ready to volunteer that there is a problem, or in extreme cases, might not even be aware.

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