“My Mum Has No Right To Read My Diary!” -Lady Reveals

We live in an era where youths now crave for more  privacy and where parents would want to know every nitty-gritty going on in the lives of their children.

Let’s talk about diaries. A diary is a personal record of events, thoughts and observations. Some people call it their secret book.  A diary is meant to be private too.  But guess what, not every one agrees with this fact and that has led me to this question:

Are Parents Allowed To Read The Diaries Of Their Children?

Ekohotblog sought to know from  respondents if parents were bestowed with such a right.

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I Am Mature, I Have My Own Decisions To Make  -Gbemisola Folorunsho

“Why would my parents or even my mum read my diary?

Is she the owner?

The only reason she will have to, is if she sneaked to do that which is not even right.

I am mature!  I have my own decisions to make, I should have my privacy. Like my dad would always tell me, “The ball is in your court. Wherever you find yourself, always be of good reputation. I am not monitoring you”

So I feel if my parents trust me, they shouldn’t have any right to peep into my diary.

It’s just like my mum reading her husband’s chats in his absence which is an evidence of distrust.

I tell my parents personal things about my life they need to know, I talk to my mother most especially,  but for my diary, there is a limit and she knows it”.

 

If It Is Of Good Content, Why Hide It?  -Obinna Okparaugo

“As long as Africa and even Nigeria is concerned, till it changes in the far future, parents are allowed to read through their children’s personal diary. 

Every written note must go through their watchful eyes to ensure you are not failing at any point.

Why do we have rising cases of depression, suicide and the rest?

It is because the thoughts of all the aforementioned are first written, hidden and accumulated in the diary.

If it is of good content, why hide it?

Light is not hidden, only darkness is. 

If at all you want to keep a diary,  discard those parts that have negative contents and keep records of the good ones so that your parents can access it at anytime.

This can save you from inflicting emotional injury on yourself because when you keep them to your bosom, it will stand as a legal entry for negativities and you won’t be able to forget them, they are your memories.

Even the Holy Bible says, we should record the good“.

 

Parents Who Do So Would Gradually Be Seen As Enemies To Their Children  -Toby

“As a parent, you don’t have the right to read the diaries of your children for any reason. 

Come to think of it, that could even make the teenager or youth  keep more secrets which is not good for the parents because there is no privacy at all. The parents would gradually be seen as the enemy.

Even parents don’t want their children to see everything they are doing.

They could probably read up something  in the diary without the child knowing and then try to seek for the truth from the child through another means, but the diary is the child’s privacy and should be kept that way. 

Parents shouldn’t look to know everything about their children they will be heartbroken most of the time.

I know they are trying to regiment their children which is not good. It has never been good.

Even countries that try to do it end up having rebels. 

Better to have a child that will sort of be in your corner than a child that sees you as a tyrant, everyone wants to revolt against a tyrant”.

I Will Determine The Level Of Privacy The Child Wants  -Parent

“Sometimes our children don’t open up to us, so the only way we can get into their head is by reading their texts, SMS, WhatsApp, chats & diaries! My 19years old in-law, who is more like a son to me, knows he cannot  pick up his phone in my presence, without me, taking it from him, to see who he is chatting with, or who his friends are, and believe me, it has saved us (me & him) a lot! Though not easy, most times he doesn’t like it, but he has no choice! And it helps us a lot in communication.

 Because I do read his chats & diaries, I know when he is about to make funny moves with the opposite sex and it gives us room to have a sex talk. Believe me these children know more than us! I have seen friends inviting him to join funny groups, which I don’t like and I stopped, just to find out from him later, it was a newly formed cult group or something like that! It even helps me to know how he spends his money! Girls! Girls!! Girls!!! So it gives us room for relationship talks.

I am not saying he shouldn’t  have his privacy but he is my son and I am his father. And as long as God keeps providing for him through me I will determine the level of privacy he will enjoy. For our relationship, thank God we enjoy the best father & son relationship.  Not perfect, but the magic & sparks are there!

As a parent, it is one my responsibilities to guard him against today’s vices, confusion & dilemmas, till he becomes a man of his own”.

I Will Start Writing My Diary With Symbols And Unique Letters, To Prevent Anyone From Understanding It  -Tabitha Jacob

“You cannot read my diary. I take it along with me wherever I go, be it work, class, church, anywhere. As long as it doesn’t stay at home. Why? Because there are lots of secrets there. Things I’m afraid to tell my family about. On several occasions, my mum picked up the diary and tried opening it, I dragged it and almost cursed her with my heart racing fast because she must not even see the things penned down there. They are personal. Now to be on the safer side, I want to start writing my diary in a different language, i.e a language that is understandable to me alone. I can start using unique letters and numbers to take down my thoughts because they are not for any eyes to see. Just me alone”.

 

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